On December 2nd I woke up at 4:30 am with what I thought were contractions. I stayed in bed for a while to make sure it was real. They were about 10 minutes apart and after about an hour I figured they were real. Matt was getting ready to get up for work and I told him he better stick around for a while just in case. I had a doctor’s appointment scheduled for that morning anyway so I was anxious to see what she had to say.
Four hours later on the way to the doctor my contractions
stopped completely. She checked me and said I was 5 cm and I probably had a
false start to labor. Typically she would admit someone to the hospital at 5 cm
but she wanted to stick to my wishes so she gave me three options. Go walk around the hospital for a while and
be under observation, go walk around a mall for a while and see if they start
back up, or go home.
I did not want to be admitted to
the hospital with no contractions but I was afraid to get too far so we decided to go walk the mall for a while. I was the laboring woman
walking around a mall for 3 hours. During that time I had a couple small
contractions but the exercise seemed to have the opposite effect on me than it
does for normal labor. We decided to go home.
Once we were home I took a very
long nap and woke up at 4:30 pm. As soon as I woke up the contractions started
again. This time they were 5 minutes apart and more intense. I timed them for
about 30 minutes and they were getting closer and more intense. I told Matt it
was time to go to the hospital and we needed to leave NOW. On the car ride they
were 2-3 minutes apart. I was amazed how quickly they were coming already.
We were admitted to the hospital
at 6:05pm after they checked me in triage and determined I was 6-7cm. I was
shocked to hear I was so close to the transition stage however it didn’t feel
like transition at all. The contractions were intense at this point but they
were very manageable and felt like early labor pains to me. My contractions
picked up to 1-2 minutes apart and stayed that way until he was born.
After we were moved to a labor
room the timing of everything became very hazy. The doctor showed up to check on us. I met the nurses who would be on that night and the first thing I said to
them is, “You have my birth plan right?” and “Please do not offer me pain
medication”. All of them said they wouldn’t think I would need it based off of
how I was already handling the contractions. One of the nurses said she has
done hundreds of natural labors and she would not offer me anything. Then they
left us alone for a while and we got into our routine.
I started laboring on my side. Around
9:00pm the doctor came in and asked if I wanted to be checked. I am against
frequent checks at the hospital but I really needed to know that what we were doing
was working. He checked me and said I was 9.5 cm and I had a small anterior
cervical lip on the right side. I knew cervical lips could be an issue but he
didn’t make it seem like it was a problem. The cervical lip was probably caused
from me laying on my left side.
I then switched to sitting up in
the bed when the back labor started. They brought me squatting bars so I could
pull myself off the bed to relieve the pressure. I had Matt massage my back
with all of the force he had for each contraction. The massaging was really the
only way I could get through it. Without him my pain management would have been
a different story. I couldn’t have done it without him!
Then I got up to go to the
bathroom and I realized it felt so much better to stand up. I stood and used
the rag doll position to hang off of Matt. This relieved so much pressure that
I knew I had to continue like this.
The doctor came back to check on
us around 10:00pm and I said I wanted to be checked again. He said I was 10 cm,
the baby was +1 station and the cervical lip was gone. I asked what we do from
here. He said my water still needs to break and the baby needs to be station
+3. He said he wanted to give it more time and see if my water breaks on its
own and brings the baby down.
Around 12:00 am he came back and
said he would like to break my water. I felt safe with him breaking it at this
point and I needed something to change. They told me to lie in the bed and I
was wondering where all of the water was going to go. Breaking the water was
not painful but it was the weirdest feeling having 3 liters of warm liquid all
around you in bed. I just kept saying “This is so weird”. The nurses did a
great job of cleaning it all up. We were then left to keep laboring for a
Around 1:00 am the nurse checked
us and asked if I felt the need to push or felt any pressure. I felt no
different. She had me start pushing a little to see if it would bring the baby
down. We were still standing at this point and I started squatting. I remember
from our Bradley classes that this was a very effective pushing position and I
was confident he would be here in no time. It is very hard to push when you don’t
feel the urge but I did it for 2 hours. I started to fear that he wasn’t going
to come down and that they were going to have to go in and get him but the baby’s
heart rate stayed healthy during all of this. I really thought that at 10cm
with broken waters that I would feel some pressure to push. The nurse
recommended propping one foot up on a chair and squatting like that for a
while. This was very uncomfortable to me so we didn’t try it long.
At 3:00am the doctor came back to
see if he could check me. I said yes because after two hours of squatting I
needed to know if it was working. He said the baby was still at +1 station. I
was getting discouraged after all that work. I felt I had the energy to keep standing for
several more hours but it didn’t seem to be working for me. He asked me if I
felt the urge to push and I said I have yet to feel the urge. He asked me to go
ahead and try and see if anything happens. I gave it my best try at pushing
while in the bed, something I did not want to do. All of a sudden the room lit
up with noise and the doctor said the baby is coming down. I was shocked! He told
me if I kept pushing in this position he would be here quickly. I was thinking
if I would have tried this 3 hours ago it would have saved me a ton of energy!
Each time I pushed I didn’t feel like I was doing very well but everyone said I
was pushing very effectively and making great progress. After 45 minutes of
pushing Jackson Gray Sondgeroth was born at 3:48am on December 3, 2013 weighing
8lbs 6 oz and 21 ¼ inches long.
They placed him right on my
stomach and he peed all over me. He was very alert and absolutely perfect!